You're experience is yours, and his experience is his, some people believe that if you just don't do it everything will get better and you'll be glad you didn't, sometimes it happens that way, sometimes it does not. I make too much money to get assistance, not enough to keep paying out of pocket, and my insurance, which is a policy I got before the horrible Obama-care crap went through, does not cover mental health. Although in theory applicable to people, and a good idea for making a list of thirteen, I suggest to actually reach people, perhaps use some examples. A reason to live. At best you can expect some verbal version of the list above. BuzzFeed Staff 1. I get that it may be a play on words, but it's a gross misrepresentation at best. When time after time you try and fail and feel like shit, you don't want to bealso feeling guilty about not feeling thankfull you were born or your suffering is just a lesson. holy heck... it's like being talked down to and shamed for even daring to consider Life is anything other then some devine gift that must be cherished at all costs, this whole article is just gonna be one big YIKES from me, but thank you, nunyas for posting this comment (which was the real help stuff here). I believe suicide is always to end the pain, therefore it is always logical. "Yeah, let me remind you how nobody likes you". SO scum like you can tell me that life is beautiful, and worth something?! Although not all "friends" cant be leaned on - there are friends that are more than happy to be that shoulder to lean on - I have been that friend myself. I have a Gay male friend who, along with his partner, though they have all the "trappings" of our culture: house, they're married, both have great careers and make good money etc. Suicide is a prescription that is to cure pain, your cousins had real pain and no one to prescribe a real living solution to it. It is not may place to command, "Don't give up hope!" Oppression is horrible. As an aside to this, you people really need to get a grip on how dangerous those suicide hotlines are for people on the edge. Medicine is not and never is actually the answer, the answer is through people close to the person, only family and friends can truly help. I have physical problems, though, and my policy is much better than anything else I can get now, and I do not want to give that up. My psychiatrist did not take me seriously. Not everyone has others who truly care about them, or even necessarily give a tiny little damn. Its my choice when to leave this hell called our society, its my life, my choice, my will and no one elses!!!! But it doesn't have to be that way, with acceptance. I make too much money to get assistance, not enough to keep paying out of pocket, and my insurance, which is a policy I got before the horrible Obama-care crap went through, does not cover mental health. Wait until someone kills themself after reading one of these asinine posts of yours and they find your article on the screen of their pc. is neither philosophical nor does it make any sense whatsoever. Number 4, for example. In this case, you could say the door feels like a barrier. A stranger telling you that you shouldn't take your life has no affect, since you do not know them and they do not know you. You'd be amazed how quickly your "friends" will run for the hills if you go to them for genuine help with a real problem. There are good things, I have tried to live for them, but the bad outweighs the good and the only winning move is not to play. If I could not drink water and not experience dehydration, if I could not sleep and not feel tired, if I could not clean my house and have a clean house.... That’s not the way in which the world works. Ana Nogales, what is your phd in? Our lives, even if we live to 100, are the slightest sliver of time on this planet. Only a mentally ill person could adapt, could accommodate, could so proudly function (Donald Trump) in such a pathological society. Suicide, therefore indicates the human is evolved , as its cortical brain can overpower the primal brain. Each new day is a new experience. I am feeling suicidal and reading this article made it 100% worse. Self care and ideas to help you live a healthier, happier life. Nothing brings me down quicker. I also have a support group I go to. Yes, I can sometimes see beauty in the world, yes, I know my existence includes other people. There is no rhyme or reason to this random airheaded laundry list, except for the presumptuousness that someone cares enough to learn, to live through new experiences, has faith (and gives no reason why one should have faith in life and in others in it), to get to know ourselves etc. Some gift! "Yeah, let me remind you how nobody likes you". Just like courtesy is contagious. Discover releases, reviews, credits, songs, and more about Gareth Emery - 100 Reasons To Live at Discogs. They focus on what is happening in front of them and pay attention to the person they are with. We can learn something from every moment, good or bad. For example, I'm looking to buy a house with about four others. note: this is a reply to the original article, not any particular reply, sorry. Identify your core values so that you can live by them. She names 12 people she blames for her painâbe it for bullying, driving under the influence, rape, or other traumas. Well done. We may also be experiencing a phase of fatalism, a sense of not belonging or of being invisible. Please, understand that while the suicide hotline is there to help, it really can only help if someone close to the person is the one calling, that way the person in need of help will hear what the suicide hotline would have said but from someone they actually know. It’s Trying to Save Us. I don't know. Please, understand that while the suicide hotline is there to help, it really can only help if someone close to the person is the one calling, that way the person in need of help will hear what the suicide hotline would have said but from someone they actually know. I've accepted I will not ever find a life partner, and being okay with this is a tremendous relief. I do not understand your comment. Then you reach 50 like me and think, what is behind me, shit, what is ahead of me, the same shit, no more shit, I had enough, I really had enough. But I think rather than being vague for a larger audience, being more specific in your audience and details would allow us to appreciate the quality more than quantity of viewership. I take about seven meds, and have a lot of sleep issues, but travel is usually doable, I promise. At best you can expect some verbal version of the list above. Realizing how the world has manipulated me into either/or thinking regarding this is productive, and helpful. Suicide is the only freedom we have, to end your fucking little meaningless live in dignity and peace. Then dont tell me life is worth something, because its obviously not (you woudnt let thousands of children starve then! I sometimes consider the far out treatments, such as ECT. The suffering is endless. You can find me fawning over pens, papers, dictions, mangas, random houses, dirt-smudged buildings, tiles, tables, chairs, etc. They may have the world's highest taxes, but it's totally worth it. None of us get out here alive, but if weâve known or *could* know a modicum of happiness or peace, I hope weâll go the full course. They, (a person in crisis) did not really indicate this was going to be. According to a study conducted by the Legatum Institute in 2018, Norway is the best country to live in today. I get that it may be a play on words, but it's a gross misrepresentation at best. The live-action Mulan isn't a musical, first and foremost. TOO MUCH THINKING! Why? Having 2 first cousins and a sister who committed suicide. I am an honest, kind person, but it has been nothing but hell for me. So sad all they needed was ............? Suicide, therefore indicates the human is evolved , as its cortical brain can overpower the primal brain. Some people have had such pain and suffering, they question living. Cooking helps too. Only a mentally ill person would do that." And it's impossible to be depressed when you're on the Big K! The content of this field is kept private and will not be shown publicly. It strokes you ego does it not?! There are some references to the original Disney songs in the score, but that's about it. I'm not sure if it would be better or worse that you may not take clients and instead blog about things you seem to have no real understanding of. I know this, I've been in this situation time and time again, not once did a hospital or a counselor actually help, most of the time it only got worse. And remember all the people in relationships who hate each other's guts and are miserable isn't unhelpful. Oh yes, let me just tell you about how good life is, so i can convince you to live it. I know this was written with a good intention, but it's so vague and broad that even though it potentially does apply to everyone, the people who actually come here cause they want to die will, in essence, feel as if they've read this before. The items on this list do not address that. If I could have no more romantic rejections and no more wish to find an intimate partner, I would. TV Shows. Finding beauty in the world. Your fake smile betrays you. Shure, I will call a hotline. The sound of a babyâs laugh. I wouldn't bring a turd into this world if I had a choice. I am RN including Psychiatric Nursing. But no man ever prayed for pain. Looking forward to that. Viewing death as a source of meaning can be comforting for many—but rather than using this as an argument in favor of suicide, it's critical to leverage such a perspective in order to make the most of life while it lasts. It's also thought that at least 25 suicide attempts are made for every completed teen suicide. This woman who wrote this should know depression is a very real illness that actually needs treatment and can be helped and not this bullcrap! Do you even have a concept of how miserable that makes truly depressed people feel? And the adults themselves aren't immune: Like teens, many adults contemplate suicide when feeling hopeless.Â, Since Hannah could not find her own reasons, I'll leave you with myÂ "13 Reasons Why...to Live. ", Sometimes, depression does not let us see the beauty ofÂ life. Still, the statistics are overwhelming. If not, there would be no forum or responses here. I was looking at this article after searching âwhy we should liveâ. What is ahead of us? I think perhaps making the list more actionable would help. Esoteric, feel-good bullplop like this is useless and offers no help whatsoever to anyone who is seriously considering taking the "express exit". Suicide is a prescription that is to cure pain, your cousins had real pain and no one to prescribe a real living solution to it. You can't understand the reason for their suicides because you are effectively a complete fucking moron . Considered one of the so-called four pillars of the European Union, this freedom allows all EU citizens to live, work and travel in other member states. Each wave that comes brings with it new experiences, and each one is different. Many men have prayed for death Very weak list, mainly for its lack of substance and presumptuousness. Making an effort to deal with problems can make us aware of how strong we really are. Top quality homes; Fantastic location; Ruby Hillâs easy access to the 84, 580, and 680 freeways. Stress can permeate our entire being, and can really show up in our faces. Maybe it's true for people in 1st world countries where you do get all the chances and opportunities, but it's plain wrong anywhere else outside that bubble of yours. In the 300,000+ year history of homo sapiens, about 110 billion of us have walked this earth, 7 billion currently are. While I am sure your comments are specific to you - I just want to point out that your feelings are not universal to everyone. We live because one day in early childhood we realise that we are alive and already have lots of reasons to go on living. Try to find some meaning in life, even if that meaning is deciding how to think about your inner experience differently. To base your entire article on "Since Hannah could not find her reasons..." and not realize the 13 reasons were reasons to commit suicide and not at all a search for reasons to live, one might find 13 reasons here why they should not trust you with their therapy since it would appear you pay no attention to context and simply glean details for window service. Itâs Trying to Save Us. 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